Friends and How They Affect Your Relationship

In this day and age of social media, our friends get to see what's happening in our lives by status updates and posting pictures. Some of our friends we call and/or visit to share updates on our lives. Let's speak on the impact of friends in your relationship.

I will be the first to tell you, there is nothing wrong with having friends. However, it's up to you and your partner if you choose to keep close contact with friends of the opposite sex (an entirely different topic). Friends can be great comforters during hard times and awesome supporters during the good times. The issue is, our friends tend be able to sway our thinking based on their own personal affairs. For example, your best friend could have just went though a bad breakup. You talk to them about it. All of a sudden you start questioning the same things about your partner (even if they have NEVER given you an indication of what you are thinking).

Another issue is a when you have a friend that's jealous of your life. Of course they would never admit it, but this is when they start telling you all of the things THEY don't like about your partner (even if you like those things). The problem here is if you hear those things long enough, you start to believe them, and effectively changing your relationship over time.

Of course there is the "misery loves company" friend. They are not in a relationship, so they tell you that you don't need to be in one. They try to show you how appealing the single life is. The issue with this is, you want to be in a relationship.You enjoy sharing your life with another person and being a part of theirs. So you end up listening to your friend and having miserable time,because it's not really what you are looking for.

So the question is, can you recognize when your friends are not helping your relationship? Are you willing to have them take a back seat to you being happy? Maybe they helped you though a tough time in your life? OK, so they helped you out. Thank you. It still doesn't give them (or family members-yes another topic) the right to tell you what you should and shouldn't be doing. Your happiness is YOUR happiness. No other individual has the right to tell you what makes you happy or tell you how you should live your life. It's up to you to find the joy your heart desires and continue to build on that joy. Friends are great to have, but recognize when they are doing more harm than good.