Bounce Back

You know how they say one door closes and another one opens? Well, that statement is very true. When you end a relationship or are a part of a relationship ending, there are a lot of feelings. There could be resentment, anger, frustration, sadness. A multitude of emotions. Then there are people on the opposite side of the spectrum. They don't care, move on within days, literally forget you existed. You never know how it will turn out. Each person is different. Hopefully you are a mature adult and can express how you feel to the person you are breaking up with or the person that broke up with you. If it was bad, well, they stuck around this long. If it was good, there isn't any reason to be bitter. Some people grow together, some grow apart.

The main thing here is how you recover. Now, you can sit around and mope and be sad. That is totally understandable. However, at some point, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back out there. What one person didn't like about you, the next person may. The key is to be real with yourself and your feelings. Know what you want and what you are looking for, and then get back out there. Don't hold on to the negativity. Be willing to judge the next person based on their actions, not actions that remind you of your ex. There may be similarities, but communicate with your new partner and let them know how you are feeling.

Learn from your mistakes. Open your heart to new possibilities. Life is too short to hold grudges and not be happy.

P.S. If you are the heart-breaker, be honest with your partner. Don't be petty. Before you break up with the person, ask yourself, why am I breaking up with them. Please make sure it isn't something shallow. If you have someone that adores you and you are not happy, you owe it to tell them. Try to work it out. If you can't, then end it on good terms. Even if you can't be friends, be mature about how you do it. You will be a better person for it.