Have you ever dated someone for a few months, only to hear, "I'm not sure we are on the same page". Months of talking, going out, laughing and even being intimate. Not because they want to see other people. Not because they realized they suddenly didn't want to be with you, but because they are afraid of being happy.
Ever so often, we find people that are mildly self-destructive and then they wonder why they are not happy. They get in a relationship, everything is going good and then, it's a friend that has a bad relationship or things about an ex comes up. The person then starts trying to poke holes into what's working. "Have I been single long enough? Is this really the right person for me? Am I on the rebound? Do I need to just focus on me?" Don't forget, at this point, the relationship is actually going very well.
So, you turn to those closest to you for advice. The mom (who isn't so happy in her relationship, whose also in her second marriage) telling you that you should be alone, because that's what she'd do if she could do it over. The friend that's jealous of them and their relationship talking about everything negative because she is alone and we all know "misery loves company". So now even though you have been in a great relationship, the doubt is starting to sink in.
How did we go from a great new relationship, to now not knowing if you want to be with someone? I'll tell you...by not following your heart. By listening to others.
We live and love throughout our lifetime. It's safe not to take a chance, not to take a risk on love. If you are not willing to take that chance, stop asking God to send you someone for you, if you only intend on giving up on what HE sends you. By living in fear of "what if" you never really enjoy what you have and grow in what could be. How about praying and thanking God for what you have and the continued growth of your new relationship instead of dwelling on "what if".
